 Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends When You're Not a Kid Anymore
Marla Paul
2004
http://www.marlapaul.com/
Buy this book new or used at Amazon
This is an excellent how-to book for meeting women when you have moved to a new place or changed your life direction, and managing some of the difficulties that always arise thereafter. She gives a lot of strategies for where and how to meet women, culled from the experience of women who have moved a lot and developed techniques that work...
She talks about the difficulty of feeling too needy when trying to make contact with others, how to manage the awkwardness of figuring out how often two people want to be in contact, what to do when you realize you are the one who is always issuing the invitations, how to respond when a friend suddenly stops emailing or calling back.
It's comforting because she recognizes how insecure we can feel if our support network of friends is broken for any reason, and that making new close friends later in life can be difficult - people are too busy, already settled in their own friendship circles, preoccupied with work and families. Paul also addresses the difficulties widows and divorced women often have when they find themselves sometimes rudely excluded from the couple-based lives of their former friends because they are now single, and the extremely disruptive effects kids can have on even established friendships.
She addresses some of the deeper issues that can derail a friendship if they aren't addressed, but this is not a psychologically-oriented book. It?s a good starting place if you are craving connection and want some practical advice.
Log in or Subscribe to Membership Community to discuss this article in the Forum...
|
Relationship 
